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Folks have mentioned an interest in questions and conversations that make them think. So I've decided to offer more of those. This is the current list.

14. What’s some of the best advice you’ve ever gotten?

When I started puberty, my mother explained that we'd drive each other nuts for a decade or so, and after that it should wear off.  So in the meantime, we should just try not to say or do anything unforgivable.

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Date: 2019-01-17 12:38 pm (UTC)
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From: [personal profile] capri0mni
From my mother (which she got from her father, who was a math professor at the City College of New York):

"Knowing the answer isn't as important as knowing how to frame the question so you can find the answer."

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Date: 2019-01-17 02:40 pm (UTC)
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From: [personal profile] cinnamon_cake
Well said. Really liked this thought!

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Date: 2019-01-17 03:11 pm (UTC)
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From: [personal profile] capri0mni
Yeah. Me, too.

For one thing, it lessens the shame and embarrassment of not knowing the answer (Doesn't remove it entirely, thanks to pressure from the culture at large, unfortunately, but it helps a lot).

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Date: 2019-01-17 03:33 pm (UTC)
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From: [personal profile] librarygeek
Library technical assistant here also agrees with that advice.

Put up a prize or anonymous question board for teens at your local public library for "best question". I wanted to know what teens wanted to know but couldn't figure out how to ask or find.

Helped us determine which local social services needed to leave brochures or do a workshop for the library public.

Teens might still ask. "Adults" get too embarrassed to ask for help.

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Date: 2019-01-17 04:39 pm (UTC)
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From: [personal profile] capri0mni
Put up a prize or anonymous question board for teens at your local public library for "best question". I wanted to know what teens wanted to know but couldn't figure out how to ask or find.

Oh, that's great. Because people can leave a question on the board, even if they don't know who to ask. But they can put it in a public place, and maybe the person who knows the answer will see it.

Re: Yes ...

Date: 2019-01-17 08:08 pm (UTC)
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From: [personal profile] capri0mni
Well, my mother did attend the magnet school "Bronx High School of Science," so I'm not surprised.

Two poems actually

Date: 2019-01-17 03:41 pm (UTC)
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From: [personal profile] librarygeek
Best advice, because I remember them regularly and who said to learn them, my middle school social studies teacher.

I was in the top section/track of the school, and Mr. Edwards had us ALL memorize "If" by Rudyard Kipling and "Don't Quit" by Anonymous (at the time at least). He even tested us on them, having to write them out from memory, but small errors didn't count.

Those are the best reminders I have ever had, that failure isn't permanent. Try again, try another way, figure out the obstacles, but:

"Rest if you must, but don't you quit."

THOSE and spoon theory pretty much sums up how to keep surviving under adverse circumstances.

Re: Two poems actually

Date: 2019-01-17 04:50 pm (UTC)
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From: [personal profile] pronker
"Rest if you must, but don't you quit." It's uplifting to a great degree and how good to know that another has taken it to heart. Gran had the poem tacked to the wall of the home that she and Gramps built and lived in for 40 years.

What a sweetly wise thing your mom passed along.

Date: 2019-01-17 04:52 pm (UTC)
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From: [personal profile] pronker
Gramps told me "You've got to get along with everybody, but you don't have to go to bed with them."
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From: [personal profile] pronker
It just occurred to me that Gramps was poetic and often took us by surprise by speaking in metaphor. The first part means what it says, but after the comma can be paraphrased "You don't have to internalize what others are, or say, or do."

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Date: 2019-01-17 05:44 pm (UTC)
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What remarkably good and prescient advice. I wish my mom had had the foresight to have given it to my sister, not that it would have likely made much of an impact.

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Date: 2019-01-17 05:46 pm (UTC)
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From my Great Aunt Lillian, who defied all the conventions of the time and place she was raised by going to college and marrying a Jew: "Play it by your own two ears."

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