>>In a nutshell, be yourself, let other people be themselves, and don't worry about the shape of anyone's crotch unless you plan to make direct contact with it.<<

I think that may be the clearest statement of how to live with other people I've seen in a long time!

I stunned someone at a restaurant years ago, when my son was at the "point and ask" stage. Asked (loudly, of course) if the person at the next table was a boy or a girl, I glanced over and responded "I don't know, sweetie. But it really doesn't matter. They look nice, don't you think?" I got the most astonished look and smile, followed by a whispered "thank you". To this day I actually don't know what gender they identified as. I was surprised by how much it bothered me to be unable to figure it out, but that wasn't their problem, it was and is mine, and I kept it strictly to myself.