>>Yeah...an' this empendin' mopve got mah brain all fucked. I mean, it been moved out some, but last time I moved...bad. :( <<
Moving is hard on anyone, even if they want it. When you have negative past experiences, it's a lot worse. :( However, there are things you can do to buffer it a bit.
One is throw out some stuff you don't need, and as you do that, imagine throwing out past emotional baggage or other virtual shit.
Another is that when you move into your new place, take some time to really make it yours. If you have a household token, place that first. (If not, now's a perfect time to get one -- any object that symbolizes your household will work.) Think about the new place and what traditions you can set there. Understand that it'll take you a while to anchor yourself in it, but you can do it.
>> Jus now figuring I can get touch without beoin' ridiculed for it. Lotta the family befoe I met Fallons felt boys don't need much touch as girls, so they didn't give it-'long with thinkin' boys ain't one for cryin'.<<
What a mess. Boys and men need as much touch as girls and women. Everyone cries. All that macho shit does it make it hard to identify and handle emotions like a grownup. >_< Come here, cuddle if you want, cry if you need to. People who say boys don't need cuddles or tears are dumbasses. So speaks the gender scholar.
>> Mah crew done broke some of dat, but I still have a hard time wid...a lot of it. *nervous about dat* <<
Well yeah. Any topic people mess you up is going to be nerve-wracking later. It's fixable, though, if you get with better people.
Re: Does virtual touch make you feel better?
Moving is hard on anyone, even if they want it. When you have negative past experiences, it's a lot worse. :( However, there are things you can do to buffer it a bit.
One is throw out some stuff you don't need, and as you do that, imagine throwing out past emotional baggage or other virtual shit.
Another is that when you move into your new place, take some time to really make it yours. If you have a household token, place that first. (If not, now's a perfect time to get one -- any object that symbolizes your household will work.) Think about the new place and what traditions you can set there. Understand that it'll take you a while to anchor yourself in it, but you can do it.
>> Jus now figuring I can get touch without beoin' ridiculed for it. Lotta the family befoe I met Fallons felt boys don't need much touch as girls, so they didn't give it-'long with thinkin' boys ain't one for cryin'.<<
What a mess. Boys and men need as much touch as girls and women. Everyone cries. All that macho shit does it make it hard to identify and handle emotions like a grownup. >_< Come here, cuddle if you want, cry if you need to. People who say boys don't need cuddles or tears are dumbasses. So speaks the gender scholar.
>> Mah crew done broke some of dat, but I still have a hard time wid...a lot of it. *nervous about dat* <<
Well yeah. Any topic people mess you up is going to be nerve-wracking later. It's fixable, though, if you get with better people.