* Understand that it is a violation of boundaries. It may be legal but that does not make it right. Know when you are being mistreated so you can cope instead of blaming yourself.
* Advocate for better awareness and respect for neurovariant people and their human rights. People have succeeded in striking down laws or at least getting better protections.
* Talk with a lawyer. You may be able to set up a legally enforceable set of directions to prevent people from trapping you in untenable situations. If you have a WRAP document filed there are things you can do to mandate following it. Also, you still have body autonomy. If you can afford a lawyer, you can sue people for violating your choices about your own body. Some kinky folks and many bodymod fans have had to do this. If you can't afford legal help, looking into pro bono or self-help options. There are "I'm being arrested" apps; if you have a lawyer you can punch the panic button when someone tries to take you away. A lot of "helpy" people will back the fuck off when a lawyer calls them.
* Similarly look for a supportive therapist. There are a few who are real attack dogs about protecting client autonomy and following principles of harm reduction. You might find one.
* Remove yourself from contact with people who abuse your boundaries by turning you over to those who will restrain you from helping yourself. It is like handcuffing someone so they cannot take pain medication. Sadly most neurovariant people have had to cut folks out of their life for threatening their sanity/survival.
* Share your needs with supportive people, and find outlets where you can take care of yourself. Avoid places that are dangerously intolerant. It is sad that these steps are necessary, but they are true for most disadvantaged people such as trans, queer, poor, female, kinky, etc. folks.
It is NOT OKAY for people to violate your choices. This is your body/mind to live in. You fix its glitches however works best for YOU.
Re: STIM
* Understand that it is a violation of boundaries. It may be legal but that does not make it right. Know when you are being mistreated so you can cope instead of blaming yourself.
* Advocate for better awareness and respect for neurovariant people and their human rights. People have succeeded in striking down laws or at least getting better protections.
* Talk with a lawyer. You may be able to set up a legally enforceable set of directions to prevent people from trapping you in untenable situations. If you have a WRAP document filed there are things you can do to mandate following it. Also, you still have body autonomy. If you can afford a lawyer, you can sue people for violating your choices about your own body. Some kinky folks and many bodymod fans have had to do this. If you can't afford legal help, looking into pro bono or self-help options. There are "I'm being arrested" apps; if you have a lawyer you can punch the panic button when someone tries to take you away. A lot of "helpy" people will back the fuck off when a lawyer calls them.
* Similarly look for a supportive therapist. There are a few who are real attack dogs about protecting client autonomy and following principles of harm reduction. You might find one.
* Remove yourself from contact with people who abuse your boundaries by turning you over to those who will restrain you from helping yourself. It is like handcuffing someone so they cannot take pain medication. Sadly most neurovariant people have had to cut folks out of their life for threatening their sanity/survival.
* Share your needs with supportive people, and find outlets where you can take care of yourself. Avoid places that are dangerously intolerant. It is sad that these steps are necessary, but they are true for most disadvantaged people such as trans, queer, poor, female, kinky, etc. folks.
It is NOT OKAY for people to violate your choices. This is your body/mind to live in. You fix its glitches however works best for YOU.