>> I used to use tape but developed an adhesive allergy which sucks...rubber bands can get me sort of close but wind up being a tad dangerous as circulation became an issue (don't tie knots in rubber bands while they are applied to the human body no matter how good they feel, it is a bad idea) <<
That does suck. :(
>> the spoon trick might work, thank you for your suggestion on that, I am very grateful I am not the only one with borderline (or outright) dangerous stim needs...<<
That's why I provide resources.
>> seriously finding substitutes for this stuff is HARD WORK people... <<
Yes it is.
>> I drew blood smacking myself with a ruler and got reprimanded and threatened with a lovely bit of procedure called a 21/20 hold (code for a mandated psych eval in the ED where I come from) so I sort of don't trust myself (or the mental needs of those around me to be fair) with anything that needs a safe-word or coaching by an experienced person to use, it might end badly...paperclips for the same reason <<
If you are a legal adult, then what you choose to do with your body is your business. Some people like blood play, others don't.
Threats do not teach -- except what you learned, not to trust yourself or anyone around you. People who threaten instead of teaching are not trustworthy. They make it harder to solve problems. Look for better people if you are free to do so.
A little blood is not something to freak out over. It does mean stop and think. Is this something you want or need to do? What are its risks and benefits? Can you find a substitute that works as well or better and is safer? People should not just assume that what you are doing is more trouble than it's worth. Do the math. It is NOT okay to take away someone's coping methods without providing a better alternative. It is NOT okay to demand that someone do better without any teaching or other support.
Re: STIM
That does suck. :(
>> the spoon trick might work, thank you for your suggestion on that, I am very grateful I am not the only one with borderline (or outright) dangerous stim needs...<<
That's why I provide resources.
>> seriously finding substitutes for this stuff is HARD
WORK people... <<
Yes it is.
>> I drew blood smacking myself with a ruler and got reprimanded and threatened with a lovely bit of procedure called a 21/20 hold (code for a mandated psych eval in the ED where I come from) so I sort of don't trust myself (or the mental needs of those around me to be fair) with anything that needs a safe-word or coaching by an experienced person to use, it might end badly...paperclips for the same reason <<
If you are a legal adult, then what you choose to do with your body is your business. Some people like blood play, others don't.
Threats do not teach -- except what you learned, not to trust yourself or anyone around you. People who threaten instead of teaching are not trustworthy. They make it harder to solve problems. Look for better people if you are free to do so.
A little blood is not something to freak out over. It does mean stop and think. Is this something you want or need to do? What are its risks and benefits? Can you find a substitute that works as well or better and is safer? People should not just assume that what you are doing is more trouble than it's worth. Do the math. It is NOT okay to take away someone's coping methods without providing a better alternative. It is NOT okay to demand that someone do better without any teaching or other support.
My go-to resource for self-injury is the Hurt Yourself Less Workbook. I haven't found an equivalent for people who want to find safer ways of exploring sharp or otherwise intense stimulation. There are also lists of alternative activities:
https://sirius-project.org/2011/08/16/distractions-and-alternatives-to-self-harm/
http://www.adolescentselfinjuryfoundation.com/page11