The result is that people learn, "power means no." If you have power, you can say no and force people to respect that. If you don't have power, people will do whatever they want to you, and your wishes are irrelevant. Saying no just pisses them off and often makes them hurt you worse.
So if you want to stop all the massive problems that are caused by violating people's agency, you can't just say "no means no." You have to DO it. That means accepting "no" when somebody says it to you, even if you have the power to force them. Don't force an issue unless it's a serious matter of safety -- and even then, consider the cost.
WARNING: This poem contains intense topics, and some of the warnings are spoilers; highlight to read. There are good intentions turning out badly, aftermath of offstage child abuse, verbal abuse and other foul language, lousy interpersonal skills (and some good ones), hurt/comfort but mostly hurt in this episode, and other touchy topics. Also Stan gets dumped again. So now you know why Lawrence is such a hot mess. If these are sensitive issues for you, please consider your tastes and headspace before deciding whether you want to read onward.
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* Non-forceful verbal resistance (crying, pleading, etc.) is 4% effective in halting the attempted rape.
* Forceful verbal resistance (screaming, etc.) is 50-56% effective.
* Running away is 85% effective.
* Physical violence is 86% effective. Striking works better than shoving or wrestling.
* Armed resistance (knives, guns, etc.) is 99% effective, and furthermore reduces the rate of injury to the attempted rape victim below statistical significance.
* One third of the women who were sexually attacked did successfully avoid sexual contact by resisting.
This matches the resources I saw in my women's studies classes. It directly clashes with most advice on what to do if sexually assaulted. Of course, women who injure men are far more likely to be prosecuted and harshly punished, whereas men are frequently allowed to harm women. But in general, if someone attacks you and you are willing to hurt them, the odds of success are strongly in your favor.
What it does not mention are limits that one could, but should not, push past. That is, a body/mind has things it can do safely, things that can be done but are unpleasant or harmful, and things that cannot be done at all. That middle range is where most people get into trouble, and they are far more likely to do so with other people yapping, "Go on, try! You can do it!"
It's like mad science. Just because you CAN do something, does not always mean you SHOULD. Always think about the cost-benefit balance. Don't hurt yourself on account of other people urging you forward where it's not safe, or because you really want to do something that is not safe for your body/mind. Know yourself. Know your limits. Understand which ones are soft limits that you can push sometimes but not routinely, and which ones are hard limits that will do real damage if you smack into them. Treat your limits with respect and your self with compassion.
Power went out in our house because somebody plowing a field hit a pole and knocked it down. So there we were without electricity, so we decided to go out. On the way into town, we came to an intersection with a fresh car wreck. We didn't see the crash happen, nor did the lady who flagged us down, but there was nobody else managing the scene. So we did that.
The following event analysis is my best recollection of what happened, presented here so that folks can see how a crisis response unfolds, in case you may find that useful for creative or personal-growth applications. It is detailed in ways that some people may find uncomfortable, so think about whether you really want to deal with that before clicking through.
Update 4/27/14: Here is the first brief news report on the accident.
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This poem is spillover from the March 18, 2014 Poetry Fishbowl. It was inspired by a prompt from siliconshaman. It also fills the "sports and games" square on my 1-31-14 card for the Origfic Bingo fest. This poem has been sponsored by lb_lee. It belongs to the series Polychrome Heroics.
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There are ways to support someone who self-harms, or to stop hurting yourself. Learn how to talk about self-injury too.
Also, a plastic wrapper can be used to make a partially occlusive bandage for sucking chest wounds. If you're somewhere that you need to use a tampon wrapper for that, the victim's probably doornail anyway, but you can at least try to buy some time.
I am now tempted to write about some macho guy bleeding out because he would rather die than have his life saved by a tampon.
Note that one company practiced price gouging and another showed civic responsibility. The latter displays far greater business acumen. If you act like an asshole, you can rob people while they are helpless. But they will hate you for it, and they will not forget. They will turn on you if they ever get a chance. Conversely, if you help people, they will think of you favorably for a long time to come. That inclines them to keep doing business with you and encourage their friends to do likewise. It makes your society a happier, more productive place.
Don't be an asshole: it's not just immoral, it's actively counterproductive for you as well as your victims.