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This poem is spillover from the February 2, 2016 Poetry Fishbowl. It was inspired by prompts from [personal profile] kyleri, [personal profile] janetmiles, and LJ user Ng_moonmoth. It also fills the "nonsexual touch" square in my 1-23-16 card for the Valentine's Day Bingo fest. This poem has been sponsored by Ng_moonmoth. It belongs to the Astin thread in An Army of One.

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 ... to communicate with people, you have to speak their language.  Sometimes that language constitutes waving a fist in their face.
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 I am fascinated by cross-orientation relationships.  Sometimes people fall in love with someone outside their sexual attraction.  Almost all of them ignore it.  But here's a lesbian marrying a man, and two straight men falling in love.  

Over in Terramagne, Socket is a lesbian with a crush on Fortressa who was straight but has since sworn off love.  So Socket is working to shift a romantic, sexual feeling into the kind of friendship that Fortressa wants and needs, without saying a word, because that's what love is -- a situation where the other person's happiness is integral to your own.  Socket cares more about being with Fortressa and making her happy than about the form  that relationship takes.  Fortressa is sufficiently clueless about relationships that she hasn't even noticed this, except that she really likes Socket and appreciates all the support.  Frankly I think Socket is the main brake pedal preventing Fortressa from turning into a whackjob.

Know yourself.  Know what you like.  But when love comes, let it in, even if it didn't come in the form you thought you wanted.
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Based on my prompt, [personal profile] shiori_makiba has posted the lovely poem "A Net of Promises" from the 'Ohana series.  Polyfolks talk about parenting together.

See also "Felt Like a Broken Promise" from the same series.
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My partner Doug found this impressive little video of the Ninja Tie Knot.  You tie the knot on a table and then put it over your head.  It looks like a traditional knot.  Yay!

Although I rarely wear ties, I have a fascination with them as a means of gender expression.  Ideally, one wants to know at least one traditional knot (there are about four in ubiquitous use) and at least one expressive knot (pick something that matches your personality and/or the occasions you want to dress up your tie).  This is my go-to reference because it lists both common and rare knots, with pictures and videos, and offers advice on when to wear them.  Among my favorites are the Eldredge, Trinity, and Rose.  For a softer look I like the Merovingian, the Linwood Taurus, and the Four Rings.  Those are gentleman knots with a dash of geek and romance.  They all show attention to detail, a willingness to stand out, and the patience to practice something out of the ordinary.  I have less need for a basic tie knot because the plain fact is, I won't be wearing a tie anywhere I'd need that kind of conservative look.  I'd be wearing it for expression, which means probably something like a show, a dance, or a wedding.  If I'm going to put on a tie at all, I might as well send a message with it.  But it's still nice to have the common knots as a backup, in case practice does not make perfect.
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This poem came out of the December 1, 2015 Poetry Fishbowl. It was inspired by prompts from [personal profile] alexseanchai, [personal profile] dialecticdreamer, and [personal profile] eseme. It also fills the "stranded" square in my 11-3-15 card for the Disaster Bingo fest, the "inventive" square in my 12-1-15 card for the Defining Character Bingo fest, the "huddle for warmth" square in my 10-1-15 card for the [community profile] trope_bingo fest, and the "orgasm" square in my 10-2-15 card for the [community profile] ladiesbingo fest. This poem has been selected as the free perk for the January 5, 2016 Poetry Fishbowl meeting its $200 goal. It belongs to the series Hart's Farm.

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 The online dating site OKCupid has added features to support polyamorous relationships.  It recently expanded its options for gender identity and sexual orientations too.
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This comic explains why, and how to take baby steps.  Remember that it takes cis people years to learn their gender presentation too!  That is what childhood and, especially, adolescence are for.  Nobody can learn it all at once, so don't break yourself trying.
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Several women talk about sex and disabilities

As a writer, I often portray characters with disabilities, and that includes the sex/romance part of life.  It goes very much like that interview: the specific type of disability has a major effect on whether and how someone can have sex, but most folks can find a way.
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A friend tipped me to this awesome line of swimwear for transfolk, tomboys, and other masculine-personality folks who may have boobies but don't want to wear girlie swimsuits.  They paired swim trunks with a flesh-toned top (available in five colors from pale beige to dark chocolate) similar to a sport bra.  \o/
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Here's an article about a female lion with physical characteristics of both sexes.  She is not alone, and her ability -- which provides valuable protection -- will probably be passed on to the next generation.  So basically we're watching speciation start as a superpower gives a new advantage to a few individuals who can bequeath it to their offspring.  Awesome.  :D
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This poem came out of the August 4, 2015 Poetry Fishbowl. It was inspired by a prompt from [personal profile] chanter_greenie. It also fills the "hugs" square in my 5-20-15 card for the Wellness Toolbox Bingo fest. This poem was sponsored by EdorFaus. It belongs to the Monster House series. It follows "Unspoken Noise," "Gathered Here Today," and "In Our Many Images."

Warning: This poem contains some touchy topics.  Highlight to read the warnings, some of which are spoilers.  There is homophobia, (brief) teen homelessness, emotional whump, and other angst.  The decent characters provide support, though.  If these are sensitive areas for you, please consider your tastes and headspace before reading onward.

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This poem is spillover from the July 21, 2015 Poetry Fishbowl. It was inspired by a prompt from [personal profile] siliconshaman. It fills the "graduation" square of my 12-30-14 card in the Rites of Passage fest. This poem has been sponsored by EdorFaus. It belongs to the Path of the Paladins series.

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This poem came out of the February 3, 2015 Poetry Fishbowl. It was inspired by prompts from [personal profile] ellenmillion, [personal profile] natasiakith, and [personal profile] dialecticdreamer. It also fills the "choosing a profession" square in my 12-30-14 card for the Rites of Passage Bingo fest. This poem has been sponsored by [personal profile] stardreamer. It belongs to the Torn World project, although it has not yet been submitted and approved by the Canon Board.

WARNING: This poem contains some touchy topics. Highlight to read the more detailed warnings, some of which are spoilers. The Northerners are very tolerant of recreational sex, but for survival reasons, very concerned about reproductive sex. The usual relationship dynamic is heterosexual serial monogamy, and in practice, most of the queer couples follow the same pattern. The beads on a woman's necklace indicate her current partner for the month, so they can track genetics. In order to maintain the population, or more accurately, to lose ground less quickly, there's a lot of pressure on people to reproduce if they can. That's hard on the ones who can't, although if they make an honest attempt, eventually the Elders and/or healers will quietly declare that they tried to do their duty and everyone should quit nagging them now. Most queer people cope with that by taking a "duty-month" now and then, and after they've had one child that's usually counted enough for them. Of course, some queerfolk want kids of their own, and have procreative sex for that reason, with great determination if not much enthusiasm. But some queerfolk are either minimally capable, or completely incapable, with a wrong-sex partner. Other than that stressful bit of background, much of the poem is pretty sweet, and it shows some of the solutions people come up with to make the best of their situation so they can enjoy life despite the hardships. If these are sensitive issues for you, please consider your tastes and headspace before reading onward.

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This poem is spillover from the February 3, 2015 Poetry Fishbowl. It was inspired by a prompt from [personal profile] chordatesrock. It also fills the "cross-dressing" square in my 1-3-15 card for the [community profile] trope_bingo fest. This poem has been sponsored by [personal profile] stardreamer.

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[personal profile] capriuni tipped me to "SuperCakes" which is a lesbian superhera comic ... with the remark that this sounds like something from Terramagne.  It really does.  Especially the "Welcome to the Family" episode.  :D
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 My partner Doug found this comic, "Bash Back," about gay mobsters.  I am just tickled pink that someone else is writing stuff like this.  :D
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While the tests are iffy, the suggestions for fighting bias are excellent.  

The problem I have with the tests, by the way, is they want you to make a decision with no real data.  I don't do that.  In real life.  It drives people absolutely bugfuck.  I can't tell you anything more about a person if  all you've given me is a name or a face.  They might or might not match the things society expects, and I don't think like society, and y'know, fuck it anyway.  If you asked me to pick a partner based on nothing other than appearance, I'd try to spot someone outside the mainstream, which is pretty much the opposite expectations.  And I like to crosswire expectations when choosing character illustration pictures too.  

Which is not to say that I have no slants, but they're not shaped like most people's seem to be.

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 Australia has a good idea to boost films by and about women.  This is what it looks like when people actually care.

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