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Here's a lengthy discussion about emotional work, which is mostly considered women's work. 

I am not good at most of this stuff.  Therefore, it is not my responsibility.  Tasks should be done by people who are actually good at them, so they in fact get done and are done right.  Some of these things I'm good at, and I do.  But they're mostly practical things, like cooking and making sure the food is something people can eat.  Don't like my cooking, you don't have to eat it, I'm not going to angst over it.  My identity is not all wrapped up in pleasing people.

This may simply be because I'm not a woman.  Some people tried to get me to do this stuff, and I would poke at it as long as there were mixed groups.  But I had exactly zero tolerance for dividing groups by sex and making the female-bodied people do this girly shit while the boys got to gather firewood.  For fucksake I am good at lighting fires.  You want me to clean the kitchen because I look female  to you?  Those conversations ended in fiery doom.  Yes, this has cost me some things; I resent people trying to saddle me with stuff just because of my crotch shape.  But I would rather do without those things than try to stop being who I am.

As an adult, I have somewhat more freedom and flexibility about what tasks I do.  My partner happens to be much much better at most types of emotional work and organization than I am.  So he does most of it, and it typically gets done right, and I am very appreciative of that because if I tried to do it then it would be a disaster.  Do not try to pound nails with a screwdriver.  Conversely there are things he is not good at doing, and which I do, even if it is an inconvenient interruption at the time, because I am good at them and they are responsibilities I have accepted accordingly.

Your crotch does not determine what you are good at or like doing.  Everyone has stuff they are good at and not good at.  All the work needs to get done.  It should be fairly divided.  Everyone should be pulling their own weight in some way, but it doesn't not all have to be the same way.  So figure out what you do well, and do it, and if other people don't like the relation of your task selection to your crotch shape, it is their fucking problem.
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Here is my card for the [community profile] ladiesbingo fest. This bingo challenge celebrates the various shades of relationships amongst female characters. It's intended to raise the amount of female-centric literature available. All modes are welcome here: het, slash, femslash, poly and gen.  (Borderline fills such as F/F/M or genderswap may be no more than 1 per line or 5 per blackout.)  All media/formats are welcome, including poetry; fanfic and original material are both acceptable. Some of the content may be NSFW. Read the FAQ and rules, scoring, and list of prompts first. The signup post is here. Anyone tired of womenless mainstream entertainment, but not sure what to make? Get a card for inspiration.  (See all my bingo cards for 2014.)

I thought this might be an effective way to attract some new readers. It's also useful for developing some of my series with female leads or other characters as a prevailing feature. Consider The Adventures of Aldornia and Zenobia, Hart's FarmPath of the PaladinsSchrodinger's Heroes, and Walking the Beat. In other series such as An Army of OneFledgling Grace, and Monster House there's at least one F&F or F/F relationship amongst a more widely scattered cast and plot.  Polychrome Heroics is kind of a unique case because 2/6 of Damask (Mira and Maze) are female; and of course it has other kick-ass superheras.  Fortressa's Pit Group is all-female, and within that she has a tighter queerplatonic relationship with Socket developing.

If you'd like to sponsor a particular square, especially if you have an idea for what character, series, or situation it would fit -- talk to me and we'll work something out. This is a good opportunity for those of you with favorites that don't always mesh well with the themes of my monthly projects. I'll still post some of the fills for free, because I'm using this to attract new readers; but if it brings in money, that means I can do more of it. That's part of why I'm crossing some of the bingo prompts with other projects, such as the Poetry Fishbowl.

Underlined prompts have been filled.


A Murder to Solve Taxes Opposites Attract Frankencritters Left Brain / Right Brain
Unnatural (Events, Weather, Beings) Trapped! Race Against Time Chaos and Order One of the Dispossessed
Gen Fic Kinetic Energy Wild CardDusk Pre- Slash / Femslash / Het
Graduation Love without Hope Pretending to be married Soulmates Asia
Child Endangerment Someone gains Purpose Festivals and Celebrations Orgasm Something is Destroyed / Demolished

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So there you are, in your dress, and something needs killing.  You do this.

To make sure you can always run and fight, consider these points in dress shopping:

* A long loose skirt allows a full stride and can be girded in the manner shown.
* A short stretchy skirt will work just fine without girding, but the flash risk is higher.
* A narrow skirt must have a slit accommodating your full stride, neither too long nor too short.
* Never wear stiff balloon skirts, tight pencil skirts, or anything else that could get you killed because you cared more about appearances than survival.  For the same reason wear low heels or dress flats.
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Here's an essay about rape in fiction, which argues that the entertainment trope should more closely reflect actual rape. 

Path of the Paladins starts with stranger rape, but it portrays another common category: battlefield rape.  It's been a significant factor throughout history and remains popular today in several war-torn areas.  Bosnia and ISIS have made a consistent practice  out of it.  0_o  Also part of this series is Gailah's rape, which while not performed by her brother Gorrein was done at his instigation.   So it's a weird blend of incest and stranger rape -- the kind of thing that happens when a brother hands his sister over to his asshole friends, also a thing that happens.

Diminished Expectations instead picks up on institutionalized rape, particularly abuse of children in orphanages and adults in whorehouses.  This isn't the kind of thing that happens once, but rather rape as a way of life.  That setting is a shithole for everyone, really, although a few people have managed to carve out some saner relationships.

Polychrome Heroics has a wide variety of characters who have survived different challenges.  The one covered in the most detail is Farce getting raped after passing out drunk at a supervillain party, introduced in "Rainy Day People."  She knows some but not all of the assailants -- a common motif in fraternity assaults, which I used as the model for this incident.  "Whose Conscience Approves" is about tracking down the cause of death for a string of inconvenient corpses, which turns out to be that molesting a child with superpowers is Darwin Award territory.  Stranger rape in that case, but Hadyn is molested by her father, with similarly fatal results, first mentioned in "The Ones Who Would Do Anything."  "Would-Be Sacraments" touches on the laws about reproductive freedom in Terramagne-America.  The Rescuer survives being raped by another boy in foster care in "A Seasoned Fighter."  "Pulling Pigtails" introduces Fortressa, who has a bad past with men and winds up building a suit of impregnable armor to beat up rapists.  That and Stiletto are probably the closest I have to the rape as motivation motif, and they're both women acting on their own interests, not to motivate men.  Also worth mentioning is that not all crappy sexual experiences are rape.  "Touchbacks" brings in Jerryrigger who survived rape, torture, imprisonment, and all kinds of other mayhem; she's one of the more dramatically broken characters, but still moving forward.  "Down New Paths" shows an example of that, with a painfully inexperienced dominatrix screwing over a novice submissive.  Not a crime, not a violation of consent -- although Gray was nowhere near informed -- just wildly irresponsible.

Mostly I'm interested in the effects of trauma on the characters who survive it.  There's a range of different assault types, and they follow clusters that appear in real life, from molestation to acquaintance rape in college to battlefield rape, along with a scattering of other examples.  Many of these are conglomerations drawn from reading accounts of actual rapes and how survivors cope with that.  Note that I also have male survivors along with female ones -- that almost never appears, and needs more coverage.
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 It can be a challenge to decide whether you prefer to blend in or stand out as a genderqueer person.  Here's a post about telling trans stories.
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This post has a video of Wendy Pini as Red Sonja, entering at 9:25 in the video.  Famous historic cosplay!  Today Wendy is better known as an artist of ElfQuest.
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 This interactive map shows the vast variety in sex/gender identities in cultures around the world.  Stuff that in the binary hat and wear it.
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Level = Epic.  

See, this is another reason we need diversity in entertainment -- it spreads around who can do the best cosplay.  No able-bodied person is ever going to be play Imperator Furiosa as well as someone who shares the same missing limb.
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This poem is from the September 3, 2013 Poetry Fishbowl. It was inspired by prompts from [personal profile] wyld_dandelyon, [personal profile] rix_scaedu, [personal profile] chordatesrock, and [personal profile] thnidu. It also fills the "sexual extortion" square in my 6-10-13 card for the [community profile] hc_bingo fest. This poem has been selected in an audience poll as the freebie for the September 1, 2015 fishbowl reaching its $200 goal. It belongs to the Hart's Farm series.

Warning: This poem features some intense topics. Highlight to read more detailed warnings, some of which are spoilers. There are examples of internalized homophobia, negative coping methods, sexual extortion, attempted help that goes awry, a fistfight, emotional angst, and other challenges. And despite efforts to clean up the mess afterwards, it doesn't have a completely happy ending. If these are touchy topics for you, please consider your tastes and headspace before reading onward.

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[personal profile] rix_scaedu wrote the story "Recovery Action" inspired by my poem "silkbag."  Please join me in bewheedling the author for an extension of this very fine industrial espionage.
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This guy tried to rob a martial artist and she throttled him with her mighty thighs

So basically, that's what kind of thing happens when someone annoys Fortressa, only she tends to squeeze hard enough to break something.
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The world needs this.  Because some men have a uterus they want to use.  Because some women are not feminissima. Because maternity clothes need to be practical.  Also because some folks have oddly shaped bodies that mean maternity clothes fit better than others.
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Meatheads Movers are making a difference by offering to help abuse survivors move to escape their abusers -- for free. While it's often impossible to prevent domestic violence, it is  possible to reach out and help the victims.  Concrete actions like this can determine whether or not someone manages to flee.  This is how men can work against the violent, rape-friendly culture of America today.  When you see something in the world that you despise, look for practical things you can do to thwart it.
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Becomes very sharp in moving from shortlist to winner of major literary awards.  These awards influence future contracts and earnings.  When they go almost entirely to men, that contributes to the overall trend of women being paid less and otherwise rewarded less for the same jobs.

It would be great to do a study with people ranking stories by quality.  In the control group, leave the original author names intact and have equal amounts of stories by male and female authors (plus other, if you want to be fully inclusive).  In the second group, switch the genders of the authors.  In the third group, remove all the names and just judge based on stories.  See if the perceived authorial gender changes how people rate the stories.
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Here's an interesting post on convention panels about diversity. Now for some further discussion of particular points ...

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Disappointed by commercial offerings, more and more women are making clothes for girls that challenge gender stereotypes. Even better, now they're banding together.  :D  I love genderflexy clothes.


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