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Life is full of things which are hard or tedious or otherwise unpleasant that need doing anyhow. They help make the world go 'round, they improve skills, and they boost your sense of self-respect. But doing them still kinda sucks. It's all the more difficult to do those things when nobody appreciates it. Happily, blogging allows us to share our accomplishments and pat each other on the back.

What are some of the hard things you've done recently? What are some hard things you haven't gotten to yet, but need to do?

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Date: 2017-08-16 10:04 am (UTC)
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From: [personal profile] gingicat
This whole summer has been hard, because of family leave with my daughter.

What I *have* to do, though, is help my son:
- sit down with the educational advocate
- hire a mediator
- get him into a school program that will actually move him forward into success rather than just promote to the next grade

I realized this summer that somehow none of the occupational therapists taught him to tie knots once he had the fine motor control, because they were focused on social skills, and now he's convinced he can't do it at all. He turned twelve this week. He struggled through fifth and sixth grade and now he's being forced to go on to seventh grade.

At least he gets praise for dealing with frustration less violently than his sister...
Edited Date: 2017-08-16 10:08 am (UTC)

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Date: 2017-08-21 07:41 pm (UTC)
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From: [personal profile] johnpalmer
Just telling him that knots aren't easy, for anyone, but certain knots have been practiced (shoe lace bow) for so long that people don't even realize they're tricky any longer, might help. Knots require knowing a lot of things and their positions at every moment - sometimes it comes down to trusting that if you do what you're told, the knot just works. It's a bit like landing on an aircraft carrier - you can't hold all the important information in your head, and you can't even *see* what you need to see, but you can trust that if you figure out how to follow the instructions, it works.

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Date: 2017-08-16 02:30 pm (UTC)
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From: [personal profile] mama_kestrel
Finishing the emptying of mom's house and the administrivia of getting my son back into college after medical withdrawal, both in the same two week erid. It's giving me panic attacks, which is not a thing I usually have problems with. And yes, I'm seeing a therapst.

Re: Thoughts

Date: 2017-08-16 07:57 pm (UTC)
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From: [personal profile] mama_kestrel
Last therapist was an aggravation. This one helps.

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Date: 2017-08-16 02:41 pm (UTC)
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From: [personal profile] thewayne
I've been needing to replace two toilet seats for a long time. They're not terribly expensive, around $26 each. And I've had one replacement sitting around the house for a long time, just needing motivation.

A friend is arriving tomorrow afternoon. Motivation received.

I unpack the replacement: and I'd bought an elliptical, and both of our toilet bowls are round.

Go back to Home Depot, explain that it was bought a long time ago, and the SKU is no longer in their system, so they can't give me credit. No problem, I'll give it to the Habitat For Humanity store.

Buy two new toilet seats. Go home. Open box. Bolt head is over an inch tall, clearly can't close the little cover over where the bolt head rests.

Go to hardware store In The Village. Narrowly avoid pursuit by giant weather balloon. Purchase hacksaw. Cut off head of bolt in convenient niche seemingly designed for such. Write strongly-worded email to manufacturer complaining that the wrong parts kit was included with my two new toilet seats.

Still, I got the job done.

Get a reply to my email later that afternoon. If I had used a box-end wrench, the top part of the bolt is designed as a torque limiter and snaps off when the proper amount of torque is achieved to prevent anything from stripping, leaving the proper amount of clearance for the cover to close.


Perhaps some day I'll learn to read instructions properly. I read them, it's just some how the part about the top part of the bolt snapping off on its own just did not sink in.

The nastiness awaiting me is taking out part of a wall to replace the valves and head of the master bath wall. That part, in and of itself, isn't too difficult, it's clearing out all the crap in front of the wall. My wife has a bookshelf there covered in fanfic that she's bought at cons over the years that hasn't been touched in the 15 years that I've known here, yet she doesn't want to throw it away.

taxing matters

Date: 2017-08-16 02:52 pm (UTC)
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From: [personal profile] callibr8
Still on my to-do list: file overdue tax returns and pay the associated penalties. >_<

My incentive for doing this, though, is that once *that* ugly business is laid to rest, my partner and I can set a date to "make it legal". :-)

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Date: 2017-08-16 03:24 pm (UTC)
From: (Anonymous)
Surviving the worst few weeks of pain in the year. But the heat's dropping, so soon I should be able to do things again.


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Date: 2017-08-17 10:59 am (UTC)
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From: [personal profile] gingicat
Wishing you a quick return to less pain.

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Date: 2017-08-16 04:13 pm (UTC)
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From: [personal profile] we_are_spc
Freaking out about my licensing exam because not at all ready feeling. *not, at , all, ready!* *freakout*


Restless, touch deprived, need to get out. Can't. Not without spending funds I don't have. I hate online classes for that. *HATE* Also? All the cuddle parties in Indy seem to want donations and I'm barely covering myself; I can't spare for anything else right now. :(

I had a concert last Friday that helped some, but not enough. Not near enough. And I meant to writ about that in last week's Good News post because I had just enough money for the tickets for me and a friend (She took care of the transportation to and from) and the artist is one we both like and he is amazing, and it was a much needed good time, and this is the second year in a row seeing him, and it was just...gaaaahhh so good and ndeed, but still not e-bloody-nuff. :( >.>

Granted I have the others here...but physical company. *sighs* )Also, a system we know that we are connected enough to has sent some people over and it's helping, but I'm still like...needing other voices and things. *sighs*


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Date: 2017-08-17 03:32 pm (UTC)
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From: [personal profile] we_are_spc

"*hugs offered* Text anxiety sucks. :("

It does...really does. I fel better knowing my practice scores have gon up (quite a bit) but I'm still so anxious that the LBRP )The thing I do to ground and center myself)...is running out of steam on me. Rather quick too-which is rare because that one is one of the few that usually lasts all damn day and has been constistent with me for the past...what's it been three weeks now?...that I've been doing it. Thing is awesome for grounding/centering. :d

"Bummer. Touch starvation is really hard on mammals."

It is. I didn't realize it could be physically painful. I'd go for a massage, but I'm not up for paying 35 dollars (Not bad for a sixty minute for students) and I keep forgetting to ask a friend of mine if she's still needing volunteers. I'd much rather spend the tickets to go all the way to the east side than the two miles to the testing center today.

"Yeah, that's a reason why we need the "least restrictive" education rule."

Right? That rule is necessary on all levels. I at least get to go in next semester for 1 class...and I'm hoping Pharmacology is there, too. if I have to take one more online class I'ma go in-freaking-sane. I've had two straight quarters in a row with at least one online class, and I feel so...blah.

"That sucks too. I've noticed that cuddle parties and buddies started out as a way to meet an unmet need, but quickly turned into an untapped business opportunity, thus almost immediately re-excluding large swaths of people who most need healthy touch but have the hardest time getting it. Seniors, people with disabilities, etc. are frequently poor, so any price tag turns them away."

Yeah, I haven't looked sence, but there was one on eventbright for May-and it was anywhere from 35-40 dollars to get in. I just...couldn't. Not wit that and the transportation. I'm not sure I'd want to pull up and away with an open door bus. There aren't many questions asked about where you're going-but it's still awkward.

"However, at some point you may have your own place. You could then host cuddle parties of your own."

We own our condo. But our association is pesky: No intake clients; no businesses out of the home. So anything more than about half-a-dozen people would get crowded car wise and would...probably get us in trouble-profit turning or not. Not to mention my place is small, and furniture isn't moveable, so while a couddle party with 2-6 people would work-anything above that would get cramped. It's not a bad thought for when we have a house or some sort of bigger place, though.

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Date: 2017-08-16 08:23 pm (UTC)
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From: [personal profile] pronker
What are some of the hard things you've done recently? What are some hard things you haven't gotten to yet, but need to do?

I rented a room, complete with signed rental agreement, to Woman who had gone so far as to leave notes on my door in the past wanting to live here. This was 7/31; she paid a deposit to halt advertising the space until 8/3, which was her move in date when she would pay the first month's rent. After repeated texts asking the ETA on 8/3, she texted she was visiting her parents 150 miles away and her dad was unexpectedly ill in the hospital; she had spotty reception for texts and asked for an extension until the 4th, which I granted. No news until the 6th, saying she again had spotty reception and the dad was still ill. Did not answer repeated texts and messages, so I advertised on the 7th and had a tenant move in on the 8th.

I am keeping the deposit. I met my agreement, so this was hard, why? Because a/she had tried for so long to move in, b/is nice, c/lost her sister to cystic fibrosis on 7/10, d/two months back, endured benign tumor of the throat surgery removal, e/had no financial difficulty meeting the rent *if all she claimed is true, anyway*, f/endured knee surgery right after the throat surgery and finally g/wants to stay long term. No contact since 8/6; of course, her sister's death means her parents lost a child and the whole sitch absolutely sucked.

Re: O_O

Date: 2017-08-17 05:26 am (UTC)
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From: [personal profile] pronker
Thanks. I needed to reset the mortgage automatic withdrawal to later because of the funds from this rental being unavailable to complete the payment at the usual time, or I would have given her more leeway. I feel like I kicked someone who's down.


Date: 2017-08-19 02:48 am (UTC)
From: (Anonymous)
Found out that my job is not keeping me past the three-month probationary agreement this ends in one week exactly and they only told me today. I have been asking about status for three and a half weeks and got no reply so I have been trying to look for a new job but have not yet gotten any interviews. I now must face searching for a new job and interviewing while I currently have a job but only for one more week which is frustrating and maddening and sad I really like this position and the people that I was working with. I honestly don't know why they aren't keeping me because they said that I was doing a good job and that they liked me and that I was good at what I was doing but yet that I wasn't a good fit so I am asking for an exit interview on Monday to try and ascertain the real reason that I am being let go and to find things that I can improve upon I hate hard conversations like that. It's going to be very stressful on Monday as I have been developing relationship with people in the office and now we'll have to say goodbye. I want to end this well and I'm not sure how. The whole situation has been frustrating for a while only because there was another person in the similar situation who has been hired full-time and is similar to myself. I'm just hoping I can get through the next week without a breakdown.


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