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Life is full of things which are hard or tedious or otherwise unpleasant that need doing anyhow. They help make the world go 'round, they improve skills, and they boost your sense of self-respect. But doing them still kinda sucks. It's all the more difficult to do those things when nobody appreciates it. Happily, blogging allows us to share our accomplishments and pat each other on the back.

What are some of the hard things you've done recently? What are some hard things you haven't gotten to yet, but need to do?

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Date: 2017-04-20 08:44 am (UTC)
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From: [personal profile] gingicat
My husband and I refused to have our younger child admitted to a psychiatric ward for the sixth time. The reason given was not "we think we can help her" but "we are scared for you." Sorry, no, the psychiatric ward is not respite care.

Next hard thing is finding her a new psychiatrist that does not react to the beginning of a meltdown by sending her to the ER. I trusted her in the moment, but I realized upon reflection that I should have said, "threatening her with calling security to walk her from the medical building to the ER is going to make things worse. Renew her meds, we'll walk to the playground, and then I can take her to school. You know, the school where she's in a THERAPEUTIC LEARNING PROGRAM."

(I emailed the school and other service providers and family, and the coordinator of the team telephoned me immediately to commiserate and also tell me I did the right thing and that the most recent hospitalization, allegedly just to adjust meds, had made her regress.)

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Date: 2017-04-20 09:32 am (UTC)
beasts_of_homeworld: Deep in an ancient forest where green moss covers all, little glowing balls of coloured light float about in the mist. (Any - Forest)
From: [personal profile] beasts_of_homeworld
you did a very good, very hard thing. well done for standing up for your child and protecting her, and from some folks who identify with her in that situation, thank you.

this might not be something you're interested in, but if you'd ever like to talk to some people who have mental health difficulties, experience meltdowns and saw a lot of psychiatrists during childhood, you're welcome to message us. we'd be happy to answer questions from that perspective or tell you about how we experienced that as children in a similar situation to your child's.

obviously, our perspective isn't going to be the same as hers because we're not the same people and not in the same situations, and you may well have such a perspective or something similar yourself - we don't want to make assumptions about what your experiences have been. but the offer is there if you'd like it.

we wish you and your family the best, and agree you did the right thing. <3
Edited (correcting a minor translation error) Date: 2017-04-20 09:36 am (UTC)

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long comment ahoy~

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remarkable moments

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expressive music

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grateful for your plethora of words

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Date: 2017-04-23 11:59 pm (UTC)
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From: [personal profile] alatefeline
Thank you for not doing something bad for your kid when the pressure was there to do so.

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Date: 2017-04-20 12:21 pm (UTC)
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From: [personal profile] we_are_spc
We need to ask the mother for a bit mor money (again)...we are nearly out of toothpaste and deodorant, and didn't realize till she had left. :(

We come to dread this-we feel like we take and take and don't givde back, and it bothers us. So much. Especially since she helped us out immensely by paying for the new patio door. *sighs* (Well both she and Dad, but still)

-Fallon~

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Date: 2017-04-21 01:06 am (UTC)
From: (Anonymous)
Asking for money sucks. :( I've been (am) there.

I try to remember two things: I *like* giving things to people I love, and these people love me. But it is hard.

I dunno if it will help you? But I try to call my parents and listen to their day to day life, which is something they don't get much and it doesn't cost. And I feel like I am giving *something* back.

But may be stressful for you, people differ. I'm just good at listening. :)

-ZB

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(Jayne Cobb): You done that stitch wrong

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Date: 2017-04-20 02:38 pm (UTC)
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From: [personal profile] redsixwing
After 90 days of fruitless chase after The Big Thing, I took a break, refreshed my reasons and motivation to Do The Thing, and started again.

I got a response, instead of howling into the void for another three months, but... who knows. It may work out, it may not. And I'm okay while it thinks about whether it's gonna.

Sorry for the necessary vagueness. I'd love to be open about this, because if I can, it means I'm succeeding. (Failing AND having to vagueblog it is... vastly frustrating.)

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Date: 2017-04-20 05:46 pm (UTC)
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From: [personal profile] technoshaman
Moving all the time. I did finally land a spot for a month straight; that happens Sunday... but it's rough on a guy within punching range of a half-century on the planet... now, hopefully, a bit more nudging of the Universe and I can land a semi-permanent Bear Lair. (I say semi-permanent b/c short of alloidal title in a place with sane rulers, it's *never* *permanent*... this would mean moving a fair bit further north and/or that and an ocean's worth of East... which would require something within the range of a winning lottery ticket, because Reasons...)

(It's rough on the cash flow, too... though the one-month place, with full kitchen access, should give me enough of a break to get my ducks in order...)

Any Universe-nudging from those here gratefully accepted... if it works as well as it did last time, I should be in fine fettle in a month. But getting from here to there....

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Date: 2017-04-20 08:33 pm (UTC)
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From: [personal profile] pronker
Moving just stresses anyone out. I am glad the one-month place worked out for you.

Hard things - brain fog and learning problems

Date: 2017-04-20 08:33 pm (UTC)
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From: [personal profile] librarygeek
So, steps being taken to deal with problems around the medical problems:

1) I'm writing lists DOWN, whether chores in progress that husband needs to check while I transport tween to live classes, or just WTF I need or want to do today

2) Setting up preferred hobbies in ways I can do them. Got staff stickers for my piano keyboard, because my recall isn't fast enough to translate to my fingers lately. Getting handwriting workbooks to practice when I can't do much else.

3) Conceded to the inevitable need for cardiac catheterization I have been waiting for since I was younger than my kid is now. Fortunately, medical science has evolved in surgical procedures so it's now less invasive surgery.

4) Did a few more planning bits towards B'nai Mitzvah Party in October, so progress, YAY!
technoshaman: Tux (Default)
From: [personal profile] technoshaman
cardiac cath.... ticker isn't all that? Scary stuff. Definitely a Hard Thing.

Writing things down... what sorts of pens do you like? ;)

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Date: 2017-04-21 01:57 am (UTC)
From: (Anonymous)
I talked my brother through a serious panic attack over the phone. And then convinced him to set up an appointment with his doctor!

...I posted something here. I don't talk to anyone not family or doctors if I can help it, so that was big.

-ZB

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Date: 2017-04-21 11:03 am (UTC)
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From: [personal profile] we_are_spc
Yea phone talk down! That had to be satisfying in and of itself.

And yea posting here. I remember thinking I would never be this active in comments again with anyone other than family about anything as personal as what we are, and *who* we are, so I feel you there.

Good job. \o/

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Date: 2017-04-24 12:26 am (UTC)
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From: [personal profile] alatefeline
Congratulations and *confetti* on doing things.

snails pace progress! BUT PROGRESS!

Date: 2017-04-21 08:02 pm (UTC)
From: (Anonymous)
still alive

still haven't cut! *WAVES POMPOMS for self*

started back with therapy, working on some inner healing stuff that's helping

put accountability in place, with actual on the calendar check ins to give me goals and focus, should help!

did two applications for jobs this week. Have an actual LIST to check off (don't know why I did not think of doing that before now!) of places to apply to for this coming week.

Had one Hard Conversation with parents

Gearing up for HARDER Conversation this coming week....I don't want to have it, but it has to happen.

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Date: 2017-04-24 12:25 am (UTC)
alatefeline: Painting of a cat asleep on a book. (Default)
From: [personal profile] alatefeline
You are awesome and I am glad that you are alive and glad for every day you do a thing (including not doing a counterproductive thing) that is good for your physical and mental well-being.

Hooray job applications! I find those particularly hard.

Good luck with continuing to do things that help and feel good to help you get through the hard things...

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Date: 2017-04-22 03:50 pm (UTC)
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From: [personal profile] cmcmck
Had to leave LJ.

You'd understand why I had to go. :(

the beginning of the end

Date: 2017-04-22 08:07 pm (UTC)
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From: [personal profile] callibr8
I just wrote a candid, three-paragraph letter to my sister, detailing my thoughts about our mom's health. Based on recent medical developments, which include the addition of Type 2 diabetes to her extensive array of existing health challenges, her nephrologist (kidney doctor) has told her that at her next follow-up visit in a couple of months, it will be time to decide either to go on dialysis or go into palliative care.

I've known this was coming for a while, but that doesn't make it any easier.

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Date: 2017-04-21 08:12 am (UTC)
From: [identity profile] rhodielady-47.livejournal.com
I'm going to have to go another round with our new health insurance company. These folks are even more unpleasant to have to deal with than the last bunch were.

One chore that I'm about to have to deal with is planting all my new apple rootstock trees! It will be tedious--there are 25 of them--but I enjoy being outside at this time of year.
:^}

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Date: 2017-04-21 08:13 am (UTC)
From: [identity profile] ysabetwordsmith.livejournal.com
>>I'm going to have to go another round with our new health insurance company. These folks are even more unpleasant to have to deal with than the last bunch were.<<

Good luck with that. It's an inherent conflict of interest; people need health care and insurance never wants to pay for any of it. They save a great deal of money by making the process too miserable for people to endure. So it's really "Insurance."

>> One chore that I'm about to have to deal with is planting all my new apple rootstock tress! It will be tedious but I enjoy being outside at this time of year.<<

Yay, planting!

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