I am not good at most of this stuff. Therefore, it is not my responsibility. Tasks should be done by people who are actually good at them, so they in fact get done and are done right. Some of these things I'm good at, and I do. But they're mostly practical things, like cooking and making sure the food is something people can eat. Don't like my cooking, you don't have to eat it, I'm not going to angst over it. My identity is not all wrapped up in pleasing people.
This may simply be because I'm not a woman. Some people tried to get me to do this stuff, and I would poke at it as long as there were mixed groups. But I had exactly zero tolerance for dividing groups by sex and making the female-bodied people do this girly shit while the boys got to gather firewood. For fucksake I am good at lighting fires. You want me to clean the kitchen because I look female to you? Those conversations ended in fiery doom. Yes, this has cost me some things; I resent people trying to saddle me with stuff just because of my crotch shape. But I would rather do without those things than try to stop being who I am.
As an adult, I have somewhat more freedom and flexibility about what tasks I do. My partner happens to be much much better at most types of emotional work and organization than I am. So he does most of it, and it typically gets done right, and I am very appreciative of that because if I tried to do it then it would be a disaster. Do not try to pound nails with a screwdriver. Conversely there are things he is not good at doing, and which I do, even if it is an inconvenient interruption at the time, because I am good at them and they are responsibilities I have accepted accordingly.
Your crotch does not determine what you are good at or like doing. Everyone has stuff they are good at and not good at. All the work needs to get done. It should be fairly divided. Everyone should be pulling their own weight in some way, but it doesn't not all have to be the same way. So figure out what you do well, and do it, and if other people don't like the relation of your task selection to your crotch shape, it is their fucking problem.
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I thought this might be an effective way to attract some new readers. It's also useful for developing some of my series with female leads or other characters as a prevailing feature. Consider The Adventures of Aldornia and Zenobia, Hart's Farm, Path of the Paladins, Schrodinger's Heroes, and Walking the Beat. In other series such as An Army of One, Fledgling Grace, and Monster House there's at least one F&F or F/F relationship amongst a more widely scattered cast and plot. Polychrome Heroics is kind of a unique case because 2/6 of Damask (Mira and Maze) are female; and of course it has other kick-ass superheras. Fortressa's Pit Group is all-female, and within that she has a tighter queerplatonic relationship with Socket developing.
If you'd like to sponsor a particular square, especially if you have an idea for what character, series, or situation it would fit -- talk to me and we'll work something out. This is a good opportunity for those of you with favorites that don't always mesh well with the themes of my monthly projects. I'll still post some of the fills for free, because I'm using this to attract new readers; but if it brings in money, that means I can do more of it. That's part of why I'm crossing some of the bingo prompts with other projects, such as the Poetry Fishbowl.
Underlined prompts have been filled.
LADIES BINGO CARD
|A Murder to Solve||Taxes||Opposites Attract||Frankencritters||Left Brain / Right Brain|
|Unnatural (Events, Weather, Beings)||Trapped!||Race Against Time||Chaos and Order||One of the Dispossessed|
|Gen Fic||Kinetic Energy||Wild Card||Dusk||Pre- Slash / Femslash / Het|
|Graduation||Love without Hope||Pretending to be married||Soulmates||Asia|
|Child Endangerment||Someone gains Purpose||Festivals and Celebrations||Orgasm||Something is Destroyed / Demolished|
If you'd like to sponsor a particular square, especially if you have an idea for what character, series, or situation it would fit -- talk to me and we'll work something out. I've had a few requests for this and the results have been awesome so far. This is a good opportunity for those of you with favorites that don't always mesh well with the themes of my monthly projects. I may still post some of the fills for free, because I'm using this to attract new readers; but if it brings in money, that means I can do more of it. That's part of why I'm crossing some of the bingo prompts with other projects, such as the Poetry Fishbowl.
Underlined prompts have been filled.
HALLOWEEN / SAMHAIN BINGO CARD
|Drunk Girl/Guy||Autumn||Smoke||Emergency Nurses / Workers Day||Balance|
|Freak Accident||Recombinant DNA||Hex||Creepy||Frankenstein|
|Van Helsing / Monster Hunter||Dia de los Muertos||WILD CARD||Stock your car / house for emergencies||Vampires|
|Listen to the Nerd if You Want to Live||Thing in the Closet||Shadows||It Started With a Group of Teenagers||Gothic|
|I Got The Instructions off Ehow||Make-up||Shapeshifter||Mummy||Feast / Celebrate Food|
Dates for Round Five:
July 1: Signups open
July 15: Bingo posting begins
Oct 15: Last day to request a first card
Oct 31: Last day to request a second card
Oct 31: Last day to post bingos for This round
Nov 1: Amnesty beings
Dec 1: discussion period begins
Dec 31: Amnesty ends
Dec 31: discussion period ends
Jan 1: Next round begins
I'm hoping to attract some new readers through this fest. People are starting to show interest in specific prompts. If you'd like to sponsor a particular square, especially if you have an idea for what character, series, or situation it would fit -- talk to me and we'll work something out. I may still post some of the fills for free, because I'm using this to attract new readers; but if it brings in money, that means I can do more of it. That's part of why I'm crossing some of the bingo prompts with other projects, such as the Poetry Fishbowl. Any other ideas for monetizing this? Let me know.
Underlined prompts have been filled.
TROPE BINGO CARD
|May December Romance||kidfic||rivals to lovers||handcuffed / bound together||time travel|
|huddle for warmth||wingfic||telepathy / mindmeld||locked in||sharing a bed|
|unexpected friendship||Hurt /comfort||FREE SPACE||trust and vows||Deal with the Devil|
|food and cooking||transformations||celebratory kiss||reunion||secret twin/doppelganger|
|against all odds||poor communication skills||slavefic||Happy ending||genderswap|
To make sure you can always run and fight, consider these points in dress shopping:
* A long loose skirt allows a full stride and can be girded in the manner shown.
* A short stretchy skirt will work just fine without girding, but the flash risk is higher.
* A narrow skirt must have a slit accommodating your full stride, neither too long nor too short.
* Never wear stiff balloon skirts, tight pencil skirts, or anything else that could get you killed because you cared more about appearances than survival. For the same reason wear low heels or dress flats.
Note: "curse" may be interpreted loosely, as a magical hex, a vulgar word, etc.
I have a linkback poem, "The Thread of the Seasons" (17 verses, Hart's Farm).
If you're interested, mark the date on your calendar, and please hold actual prompts until the "Poetry Fishbowl Open" post next week. (If you're not available that day, or you live in a time zone that makes it hard to reach me, you can leave advance prompts. I am now.) Meanwhile, if you want to help with promotion, please feel free to link back here or repost this on your blog.
( New to the fishbowl? Read all about it! )
Bacon bowls -- Usually you're better off just flipping over a muffin tin to make bowls out of bacon, cookie dough, etc. However, they're not always a convenient size, so if you really love edible bowls then buying proper molds may make more sense.
Donut factory -- I have voraciously patronized these in malls and had no idea that a home model was available. :D Too much bother and empty calories for just one person ... but imagine how awesome this would be in an office, a large household, or pretty much any other group function with access to a kitchenette. Especially since the donuts come out plain so you could then shake them in bags of powdered sugar, cinnamon sugar, cardmom, dip them into chocolate or yogurt coatings, etc. according to taste.
Waffle bowl press -- Another nifty gadget for people who like edible bowls. You could probably use it for more than waffle type batter.